When I was 14 years old, I knew I would move from Greece and I will leave in an English speaking country. I was working and studying for 4 years to save money for a Master’s degree I was eyeing. When I was 24, I moved to England and I have been living here for almost 8 years.
When I was 14 years old I wanted to be happy with my body. It took me 14 years to discover how I could do that.
It took me 5 years to decide that I want to start my own business and make a career change from employed to self-employed. I am not saying it is better, it is a lot more challenging but this is where I wanted to get to and I am still working on it.
However, what I remember most is not actually achieving the goals but all that I learned about myself, the experiences I lived and the people I met, some of which have turned into family.
As you have probably already suspected, this will be a completely different video to what you used to see me put out on my channel. If you are brave enough, then follow me!
Ithaka by Cavafy
As you set out for Ithaka
hope your road is a long one,
full of adventure, full of discovery.
angry Poseidon—don’t be afraid of them:
you’ll never find things like that on your way
as long as you keep your thoughts raised high,
as long as a rare excitement
stirs your spirit and your body.
wild Poseidon—you won’t encounter them
unless you bring them along inside your soul,
unless your soul sets them up in front of you.
Hope your road is a long one.
May there be many summer mornings when,
with what pleasure, what joy,
you enter harbors you’re seeing for the first time;
may you stop at Phoenician trading stations
to buy fine things,
mother of pearl and coral, amber and ebony,
sensual perfume of every kind—
as many sensual perfumes as you can;
and may you visit many Egyptian cities
to learn and go on learning from their scholars.
Keep Ithaka always in your mind.
Arriving there is what you’re destined for.
But don’t hurry the journey at all.
Better if it lasts for years,
so you’re old by the time you reach the island,
wealthy with all you’ve gained on the way,
not expecting Ithaka to make you rich.
Ithaka gave you the marvelous journey.
Without her you wouldn't have set out.
She has nothing left to give you now.
And if you find her poor, Ithaka won’t have fooled you.
Wise as you will have become, so full of experience,
you’ll have understood by then what these Ithakas mean.
Who here has ever got really excited with the prospect of succeeding in an area of their life, i.e. achieving their ideal weight, becoming fitter, creating a product, creating a family, moving to another country? But who’s after realising the work and changes required decided or convinced themselves against it? That they were actually fine and they did not need to achieve that? I have been there and I know a few people that were or are there. It is easy to aspire the result if we do not understand the work that it required. I know lots and lots of people that gave up on their dreams because they did not like the change, the effort required or they expected a change to occur in a very short time.
What I came to realise is that our goals are like Ithaka, they are important as they provide us with a destination but what is more important is the journey to the goals. Unless you learn to enjoy and accept the journey you will never achieve them. If you do not like healthy food and moving your body and are not willing to limit takeaways, pizzas, pastas and fried chicken, then your chances of losing weight and reaching your ideal weight goal may not be achievable. If you want to get a boyfriend or a girlfriend but hate dating, how is this meant to work out?
So, I have redefined what success means to me because achieving a goal did not make me happier or I did not feel successful. What made me feel successful was the work ethic I put in whatever I did. My favourite definition of success is the one provided by Earl Nightingale and I would like you to hear it from him.
“First, we have to define success and here is the best definition I’ve ever been able to find: “Success is the progressive realization of a worthy ideal.”
For me successful individuals are:
Sarah, a mother of two who is training for a half-marathon, because she wanted to challenge her fitness level.
Georgia who wants to have more energy to play with her baby boy and who is working on losing 40kg while having already lost half of it.
Simon, who is building a successful business and have learnt to nourish himself to be able to deal with any challenges thrown his way.
Jack, who started guitar lessons, as he wants to be able to compose his own songs.
You, who want improve your life and you educate yourself to be able to do that.
I love this definition of success for a very simple reason. If I consider myself successful today because I am taking a step towards my goal then that means I can live the life I otherwise, would only aspire to live. Example, I was always postponing exercise in the morning as I thought this is what I will do when I reach my financial goals. However, if i start seeing myself as a successful person today, there is nothing stopping me from waking up early in the morning and exercising, is there? It changes your perspective and attitude and when you change your perspective and attitude, you become and attract more of situations that help you achieve your goals. It’s the law.
My goal is to affect positively millions of lives. So, it would mean the world to me if you could help me achieve that by sharing this message with anyone you think will benefit. Take care and I will see you in the next episode.